Have you ever felt frustrated and stuck in your life, only to have someone tell you positive thinking will make everything better?
Maybe you've tried to repeat some positive affirmations about how abundant and enough you are, only to have your "inner critic" start speaking loudly to remind you about everything "wrong" with you and all of the things that are lacking.
If so, you'll relate to this DM I received on Instagram. Nicole wrote:
I want to find real happiness. BUT, my question is what are the things and behaviors we can mimic to financially be in a position to follow our true passion and dreams? It's not always easy when you have bills to pay. For me, I spend my money on stupid stuff and travel as a way to avoid what's going on in my life. If it's all a mindset, what is that mindset?
First of all, thank you, Nicole for your share. I hear you and know how frustrating it is to be caught in the head vs. heart battle of what you want and what you believe is actually possible for your life.
In the personal growth world, it's often said "When you change your thoughts, you change your life." While I believe positive thoughts are a great start, they aren't enough by themselves to provide meaningful, lasting transformation. Allow me to explain.
My coaching homie, Stephen Lovegrove (you will get to meet him on my podcast which launches soon), recently made a brilliant analogy about our personal growth path and the new iPhone.
Have you noticed how many people are complaining about the new iOS update Apple recently released? It seems like everyone has installed it, only to experience technical glitches which affect the performance of their device. It's also led to a conspiracy theory that Apple is trying to wreck your current phone so you will upgrade to the X or the 8 (their newest models).
But is that REALLY the case?
The truth is, Apple creates their iOS updates to be compatible with their newest technology. You are welcome to download the new software onto your older model phone, but it might not be equipped to handle the software, which will lead to glitches and malfunctions.
It's actually the perfect metaphor for why we can struggle to create momentum in our lives.
In Nicole's message, she stated a desire to create new thoughts which would lead to more happiness. However, she's trying to download these updated, empowering thoughts onto old software....i.e.,her old beliefs about scarcity and lack.
When you read her message, a part of Nicole believes she needs to reach a certain financial level before she can follow her dreams. She believes it's not "easy" to prioritize herself and her needs when there are bills to pay.
If her belief system tells her she can only create her best life when she has no financial obligations, it will be hard for her to find the courage to make a change. There will always be a mortgage, utilities, credit cards, and groceries we have to pay for each month, so we can't use bills as an excuse to stay stuck in an unfulfilling life.
Basically, her outdated hardware (limiting belief system) is not equipped to handle the new software (thoughts of abundance and happiness) she wants to install.
Further complicating matters is her behavior of spending money on travel and vacations (a short-term fix to a deeper, spiritual problem), which will exhaust her finances and create a barrier to creating the new "phone" (identity) she needs to effectively run the software she wants to download. Her feelings of scarcity and lack tell her now is not the right time to invest in a program or mentor to help her breakthrough.
Long story short, real transformation does not happen at the level of thinking, it happens at the level of BEING.
Earlier this week, I shared the story of Kate, who transformed her life from an emotionally dead shut-in who hid from the world, to a vibrant, passionate, and alive woman who has created a passion-filled new career, relationship, and life.
Kate didn't just create that transformation through her thoughts. She created a new identity, energy, and belief system which set her up for success. It's not that she hasn't faced challenges along her journey, but she has built a mental anti-virus software which rejects any person, thought, or behavior that doesn't contribute to her happiness.
For me, this is how you live LIFE AMPLIFIED. You turn down the volume on the negativity and turn up the volume on your purpose.
Positive thinking is wonderful and necessary. But if you're not where you want to be in ALL areas of your life... there is deeper work to be done.
You have to identify the hidden blocks that keep you stuck in a victim identity which makes you believe you're powerless to create a better life...
You have to understand the root cause of these beliefs...
You have to commit to working on YOU instead of draining your energy on trying to change other people and circumstances which are out of your control.
Essentially, you have to become the kind of person who will win the prize you seek.
And if you knew how to do it on your own, you would have already done it. This is why it's necessary to have a mentor, structure, and implementation system, to help you get to the next level.
This is why my clients work with me. They get amazing results!
- Like the client who just registered the LLC for her new dream business and is leaving her corporate job at the end of the year!
- The client who met her boyfriend within a week of us getting clear on her ideal partner!
- The client who went from a stay-at-home mom with zero TV experience to being at a callback audition in front of cable TV execs in 11 weeks!
- The client who turned around her relationship, left her job, went into business for herself, and crushed her financial goals in 5 weeks!
- The lawyer who has finally the peace, happiness, and fulfillment to go with his financial success!
What would it feel like to replace your fears about fear and lack with joy, gratitude, abundance, and prosperity?
What would it feel like to be in control of your time, your finances, and your life?
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If you or someone you know is ready to break through, click here for details and to submit an application. I will personally connect with you to schedule a 30-minute discovery call so we can talk about your goals and see if Life Amplified is right for you.