Sometimes, you just have to take a break.
For the better part of the last year, I've been writing weekly training emails for my mailing list sharing ways to uplevel your life. Composing them is one of my favorite parts of the week and it's been gratifying to see the messages spread as people forward them to the people that they love most.
But life gets in the way, doesn't it?
In addition to working with my private coaching clients, I just completed a two-week run starring in a play here in the Tampa area. While being onstage was a great creative outlet and an amazing experience, the rehearsals and performance schedule were grueling. On top of it, I had family in town visiting and I've been packing up my apartment and planning on moving into a new condo.
It was a crazy three-week window.
So last week as I sat down to compose my usual email, I felt physically and mentally exhausted.
Rather than "push through" and send an uninspired message for the sake of sending something out, I closed up the laptop and elected to take care of me. I slept a lot. I went to yoga. I spent time with my girlfriend.
And you know what? I didn't feel too guilty about it.
I've come to learn that you have to say no to other people in order to say yes to yourself.
When I am physically and mentally rested, I can show up in a bigger way for my clients. I can better show up for YOU!
If you constantly make withdraws from your savings account without depositing a new check, you will find yourself financially bankrupt. We try to avoid financial bankruptcy at all costs.
But emotional bankruptcy is a thing too.
Why is it when we are energetically depleted, we wear it like a badge of honor? When people ask us how we are, we answer "I'm so tired" as if we are proving our worth by how much we give to everyone else around us?
Why is it I know so many people who don't use all of the vacation and PTO that they are given by their employers? They keep giving and giving to their job, only to find themselves feeling frustrated, resentful, and burned out.
How is that a benefit to you or your company?
And because the law of attraction is about attracting the vibration that we put out into the world, when we cannot set boundaries, we tend to attract more people and circumstances that take and take from us without giving back.
As Marie Forleo says, "Get on the no train!"
Saying no to other people is not selfish. It allows you to say yes to yourself. When your tank is full, you can operate from a place of overflow, where your energy spills over to your family, friends, and employer. If you keep driving without filling up the tank, you will find yourself stranded on the side of the road.
So what new boundary can you set this week? How can you put yourself first? What is that self-love act that you have been putting off? How can you schedule non-negotiable time every day to take care of you?
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Let's finish the summer up with some self-love! You're so worth it!